How do you reduce stress, achieve your goals, have healthy relationships, raise great kids, start or run a business, lose weight (Or anything else, for that matter)?

You DON'T if you don't have healthy BOUNDARIES!


Erin Ortiqeaux


What would your life look like if you were less stressed, more confident, and more authentic?

"Your young self told you a story, a lie, and you still believe it's true!" 

And that lie has likely led to you living a life that falls short of your dreams. Are You My Boundary will empower you to embrace the real you, acknowledge and understand what is holding you back, and breakthrough to build and live a gratifying life.

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Do you ever feel like everyone else is happy but you struggle? If so, I have great news: You can take back your power.

As the founder of The Take Back Your Life Project, I would like to share with you my tips in what I hope is a challenging and inspiring new book and accompanying workbook/Journal. In Are You My Boundary I reveal the truth behind why we people-pleasers struggle with the disease to please. Why we care so much about what people think. And why we hold back from living our best life. I help identify the lies that prevent you from reaching your full potential and living your best life.

In Are You My Boundary I use personal stories and hopefully relatable humor to share the painful reality that once left me feeling unappreciated stressed out and even unworthy. I outline the specific simple daily strategies that helped me build my confidence, heal my relationships, and take back the power to design my best life. I will encourage you, inspire you, and make you laugh, and I will definitely hold your feet to the fire when necessary. All to remind you to stick to your goals of having healthier relationships, more confidence, and a bigger vision for your future.

With bold truth and decisive conviction, Are You My Boundary shows you how to ditch the guilt and have reciprocal, fulfilling relationships along the way.

Women are always telling me that the biggest obstacle they face, on a daily basis with regard to reaching their potential and being all that they were created to be is themselves. They just don't know why or how to fix it.

As women, we long to succeed, and yet we can't seem to silence the voice inside us that whispers, "You are not ENOUGH.Are You My Boundary explores not only the real reasons behind why we struggle with self-doubt, self-esteem, and confidence issues, but it also digs into why we tolerate our lives rather than intentionally building them.  I also show you how to break the cycle of guilt, shame, or self-sabotage and finally build a life that excites you. 

So whether you have struggled for years with self-esteem or self-confidence issues or simply want to improve your ability to show up for yourself in your own life, Are You My Boundary will inspire, encourage, and most importantly give you the tools you need to stop holding yourself back and start living with intention, conviction, and joy.

Do you worry too much or procrastinate? Are you tired of being stressed out? Are your relationships reciprocal and fulfilling, or draining and drama-filled?

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Don't worry, I won't spam you. I just want to keep you informed as to when the book is coming out and give you some much-needed tips, tools, and inspiration so you can live your best life.

Why should you read this book?

Why you should read this book.

  • You worry all the time about what others think.

  • You want to improve your relationships.

  • You feel unhappy or stuck.

  • You often ask yourself “Is this all there is?”.

  • You worry a lot.

  • You look at other people who seem happy and wonder where you went wrong.

  • You feel like something is holding you back from being more authentic and reaching your dreams and goals.

  • You have trouble reassessing life goals and developing a plan to achieve those goals in a timely manner.

  • You often feel overwhelmed.

  • You have difficulty asserting yourself or avoid conflict.

  • You need to reduce stress and increase productivity.

  • You give to everyone but yourself.

  • You say YES more often than you truly want to.

  • Procrastination has become a way of life.

  • You feel like asking for help seems selfish.

  • You feel burnt out or filled with stress and anxiety.

  • You want to feel more confident.

  • You second guess yourself often.

  • You have toxic people in your life who are negative.

  • Your emotions often define your choices.

  • You find yourself making excuses for unmet goals or for other people's behavior.

  • You struggle with prioritizing.

  • You have difficulty dealing with stressful situations.

  • You avoid uncertain outcomes.

If you can relate to any of these, the way out is to set some BOUNDARIES

My NEW Book Are You My Boundary can help!

Are You My Boundary can help you:

  • Identify the self-sabotaging thoughts, excuses, and behaviors that are holding you back.

  • Reduce stress, build your self-confidence, and find your secret to happiness.

  • Develop reciprocal rewarding relationships.

  • Stop feeling overwhelmed and increase productivity.

  • Stop feeling guilty for making yourself a priority.

  • Achieve your goals reliably.

  • Live authentically without apologies.

Right now, you are sitting there asking yourself if you should read yet another self-help book. You are probably wondering if it would really help or even make a difference in your life.  I can tell you that millions of people around the globe struggle with boundary issues and DO NOT KNOW IT. And you might be one of them, regardless of how successful you may be, both personally and professionally.


That's right. There are people out there that are completely unaware that they have boundary related struggles in their lives. They often think, "My husband or partner is just a jerk, or my kids are so demanding, or my boss refuses to pay me what I am worth, or my schedule is just so jam-packed that I have no time for myself." Or perhaps they procrastinate, make excuses for not reaching goals, tolerate relationships that add stress to their lives or put more on their plate than they should. There are countless other reasons that their lives are filled with stress, drama, and chaos. Reasons that their lives are determined rather than intentional.

"I don’t know the facts behind the stories you've endured. But I do know that the meaning you assigned to your stories is likely skewed because of your young minds’ inability to discern the truth. I also know that the meaning you assigned to your stories is probably not leaning towards your intention of happiness either."

To understand boundaries, one needs to know ONE thing...It is all about acceptance.

How one pursues acceptance and ultimately love is determined by a decision. A decision to allow their stories to define their choices. Or a decision to require their choices to write their stories.

In this refreshingly honest and entertaining how-to guide, personal development coach, and recovering people-pleaser, Erin Ortiqeaux shares her unconventional approach to setting boundaries. She understands your struggles because she’s faced—and overcome—her own. And she knows that healthy boundaries are the key to finding happiness and success.


Her research-based process, combined with first-hand experiences, will help give you clarity and perspective and equip you with the tools and skills you need to build a life you love. She uses proven strategies, practical, intuitive exercises, inspiring stories, brutal truths, a little tough love, and easy daily practices to help you change your life for good.


So if you are wondering: HOW you: Reduce stress, build self-confidence, have a great marriage, get that promotion, start a business, find the perfect mate, plan the perfect wedding, raise self-confident kids, lose weight (Or anything else, for that matter)?

You START by setting BOUNDARIES!

So, now ask yourself if any of these sound familiar. If so...Then yes, you should read

Are You My Boundary?



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You have probably been thinking about making a change for a long time, but you just didn't know-how. I'm so glad you landed in my backyard because I can help.

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Erin Ortiqeaux is a personal development author and coach whose work features practical, applicable, and thought-provoking tools for living your best life. Her first book, Are You My Boundary, is a personal rendition of the path to healing from a lifetime of people-pleasing....even for those who aren't aware that they have boundary troubles.

"What will your life look like in ten years if you
change, NOTHING?"


Shifting patterns and habits that have lasted a lifetime requires modifying how you interpret the world around you. Not just the will power to say NO and stick to it.

Every time you let self-doubt call the shots, every time you second guess yourself it reinforces the lies. The lies you have believed from a very young age. Every time you bite your tongue, allow negativity or procrastinate it erodes your self-confidence. It creates an environment where self-trust is elusive.


Are You My Boundary is written with compassion, humor, and tough love. It is also grounded in decades of research. The 6 principles I have developed in this book will give you the tools and techniques you need to pursue relationships that enhance your life and reduce your stress. Those same tools will give you the skills to step into your potential and thrive amid the challenges that are currently holding you back.

Don't worry it's not too late to...

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